When “flight” looks like “fight”

Question from Quora today: Psychology: What are some good examples of “fight or flight?”

Answer from Gus:

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At first I passed on this question – examples are too easy to find for oneself. But then I remembered an interesting example of this in most snakes which isn’t well known.

Most people who get bit by snakes are stupidly attacking the snakes at the time. So you can hardly blame the snake for attacking back. But not all of these people were being as stupid as you might think. Sometimes it looks like you don’t have any choice but to get the snake before it gets you – which is actually caused by a common misunderstanding.

Looking closer you will find that almost all snakebites occur because the person was preventing the snake from running away in one way or another (even when they didn’t realise this is what they were doing). That is what really got them into trouble. In other words, flight is the first option of most snake species when they feel threatened, not fight. (Not all species, though: a few, like the mambo, are just mean mofos.)

However, most snakes are not “running from” in their attempts to flee; they don’t just flee “away” from the threat in whatever seems the easiest direction. Their instincts are not flexible (adaptable) enough for that.

They are actually “running to” their home. Yes, their flight instinct is specifically to run away to their safe zone which is their lair. So their particular flight instinct is fused or conflated with their homing instinct. This particular survival mechanism has been serving most snake species well now for millions and millions of years.

But snakes aren’t real bright: they have a very limited capacity for adapting their instinctive reactions to circumstances. So “go home” to a snake doesn’t mean “find your way home by the easiest means” or “keep going in the general direction of home but detour around threats and obstacles on the way”. No, they haven’t got the brains for that level of sophistication.

Therefore, if you happen to be situated between the snake and its home when you accidentally (or deliberately) make it feel threatened, it will appear to be attacking you even when it is actually trying to get away from you. It can only go straight home and if “straight home” is on the other side of you, then it will try to go through you to get home. So it’s particular form of “flighting” makes it look like it’s “fighting”. Of course, the flighting instinct does switch gears to the fighting instinct at the moment it can no longer obey the “go home” command. Fight is the alternate command when flight seems impossible.

In this situation, many people think they have no option but to fight back – and so many of them end up getting bit. Which they could have avoided easily, if he or she only knew that just a little bit of “snakely courtesy” was in order. All the attacked person really needed to do was step to the side and the snake would have slithered past with relief on its direct path home.

Something to keep in mind the next time you go out bushwalking. Even more useful than a compression bandage and a cellphone.

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Posted November 22, 2016 at 8:04 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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Biting into the easy center of a “hard” life

I answered this question on Quora some 19 months ago, but for some reason neglected to also post it to this blog. As it contains insights of interest to students of Instinx, here it is now:

Question from Quora: Why is my life so hard?

Answer from Gus:

You don’t give much to go on, but let’s see if I can help:

Looking over the 12 answers given so far, I wonder what makes it so difficult for people to appreciate that there are levels of mental capability just like there are levels of physical capability. If the question was “why do I find it so hard to climb trees?” then most answerers wouldn’t respond with “you just think it’s hard for you” as they have done here. They would take the questioner at their word and explore the specific competencies involved.

The fact is he or she is finding life “so hard” and that means it is more difficult to be living their life than it is to be living your life, unless you feel life is that hard too.

For whatever reasons, the questioner is finding it more difficult to cope than most other people they are aware of. For the questioner, that is reality, regardless of its cause. We can be sure of this without knowing anything about their circumstances.

Difficulty is an attitude or emotion that behaves rather differently from most negative emotions. Take fear as a comparison. I used to be so claustrophobic that I couldn’t receive an MRI. The panic would rise in me until it felt impossible for me to lie still inside that bloody donut. But I always knew the fear was inside me, that it was my problem, not somehow emanating out of the machine.

However, if I felt that riding a bicycle was difficult, then it actually feels like the difficulty is “out there” in the bicycle. It is not as immediately obvious that I am “difficultying” the bicycle, like I am fearing the MRI. It feels more like the bicycle is making me feel incompetent.

And yet the truth is that feeling difficulty is exactly the same as feeling fear or anger or grief or despair or any other negative emotion. It’s happening “in here” and not “out there”.

So this is the first step to answering your question: Why is my life so hard? Recognise that you will find the reason it feels so hard within you, not out there. In other words, life isn’t doing anything to you, it is the feeling of difficulty within you that’s making it feel so hard.

Thus, a more practical question to answer would be: Why does my life feel so hard?

(It may seem like I’ve used a lot of words to make a very simple point, but I have to make sure it is understood first or everything that follows is useless.)

To answer that question, let’s first look at the opposite: when something feels easy, why is that?

The common denominator of everything you find easy in your life is that you find it easy to put your attention on it. You find it easy to think about and focus on the things you are good at and you find it difficult to focus on the things you aren’t good at. All problems of difficulty are actually difficulties in attending to things.

In simple terms, a person’s attention is always in one of three states. Just like H2O is always in a solid, liquid or gaseous form, a person’s attention is always either attending, avoiding, or obsessing about something.

Attending is the state that feels easy. We are freely and instinctively able to give the appropriate amount of attention to these parts of life without much conscious effort: it just happens. Avoiding is what usually causes a feeling of difficulty. The more something feels difficult, the more you want to avoid it. Apparently.

But remember what I pointed out before: you don’t want to avoid something because it is difficult, it actually feels difficult “in here” because you want to avoid it. That’s the illusion of difficulty and why it’s not always obvious how to make things easier. (In business, billions of dollars are wasted every year making things physically easier when that is seldom the real reason why they aren’t being used.)

You have to reduce avoidance in order to reduce the illusion of difficulty. In military boot camp, for instance, you are forced to do things that may at first seem very difficult. You are not permitted to avoid it, over and over, so eventually your mind stops trying to avoid it so strongly and thus you find it much easier to do. You may never get to the point where you actually want to do it all by yourself, without outside pressure to do it, but it certainly gets easier to the exact degree that your avoidance of it reduces.

Yes, you are also getting fitter physically, but that is only part of the reason why your training feels easier as you go along. Your mind is also finding it easier to attend: to think about and focus on the activities involved.

Obsessing will also make things feel difficult, but it does it in the opposite way. Instead of feeling like your attention is being repelled, it is being grabbed. When you obsess about something, your attention is being robbed away from other parts of life until it feels difficult to give anything but the obsession an appropriate amount of attention. By default, you end up “avoiding” the other parts of life simply by not giving them the attention they normally require, which makes life in general feel more and more difficult to live.

This is what happens to a drug addict, for instance, but it doesn’t have to involve substance abuse. I coached a person recently who was letting his business fall apart because he was determined not to give up one more dollar in his divorce settlement than he had to: that was his obsession. When we freed up his attention from that obsession, he went back to happily creating what he wanted in his life.

From this you can see – if a person is seriously asking the question: Why is my life so hard? – there’s a good chance he or she is obsessing about something that is robbing attention away from everything else.

So – life will be feeling so hard because you are avoiding big parts of it for one reason (avoiding) or the other (obsessing). The way to make it feel less hard is to improve your ability to focus on whatever you do want to focus on.

Any meditation or mindfulness technique will help you to improve that ability to some degree, you can read about the one I use here: Attitude-First-Aid

Right now you may not know what you want to focus on, but that doesn’t need to be a problem. The more able you become to direct your attention (by doing the exercise given), the more you will find yourself focusing on what you want to without really having to think about it at all. Certainly, life will begin to feel easier, bit by bit, right away.

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Posted November 20, 2016 at 3:09 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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The eensy weensy building blocks of happiness

Question encountered on Quora today:  What is the most under-rated pleasure?

Gus’s answer:

Is this one under-rated?

Not sure about that.

Under-noticed after a certain age, that’s for sure.

We celebrate it when we see it in children, making a big fuss about it. But that tapers off as the years progress and it becomes more taken for granted. It becomes “Oh that’s nice” instead of “That’s fantastic!”. And eventually it ceases to be remarked on at all.

And yet it always, always, always gives pleasure.

And as we get older, it also happens less often. From noticeably occurring dozens of times a day when we’re very young, by the time you crack 60 it could make your day – or even your week – just happening once.

I’m talking about improving your ability to do something, anything.

Whether it’s a huge “Aha!” or just the littlest “Huh” moment, it never ceases to give pleasure.

From gripping the can opener at a slightly more effective angle – to using a more effective tone of voice with your pet (or your Presidential Chief of Staff) – to noticing something about the timing of traffic lights in a new neighbourhood: your life is built bit by bit from these little lego pieces of improved competence.

And the more attention you give to them – the more you take time to appreciate them whenever they happen – the happier they will make you. They are what you build your life out of.

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Posted October 24, 2016 at 3:25 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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Keeping bullies at bay

Asked of me on Quora today: What is your best one-line zinger or just best zinger of all time regardless of length?

I see zingers as a way to enact justice into an unfair situation of a person trying to grab unfair control.

My answer:

If you’re talking about something that’s going to have a disciplining effect, but doesn’t open the door to escalating conflict, then I recommend no words at all.

Whatever misbehavior is going on, if you simply stand overtly silent and give them a meaningful look, and continue to do so, this usually puts an end to the irresponsibility or unkindness and allows people to “come back to themselves”.

In most cases, except for really severe situations, this is absolutely the most effective way to express your disapproval. Much more potent than whatever “zinging” words you might have tried to use.

Most people only require this kind of light touch. And for those who need more, you’ve given them no ammunition. You’ve done nothing at all for anyone to use as a pretext for taking offense and thus escalating the conflict.

If that doesn’t bring things back to normal and you do have to do more, then this question asked of the main culprit is sometimes useful: So what effect are you trying to have right now?

He or she may ridicule the question or pretend not to understand it, but if you persist in simply asking it, without further elucidation – like holding out a cross to a vampire – at the very least, everyone else involved will see your point and so the destructive influence is brought into focus for all concerned. Hopefully, at least it will isolate the real instigator of the situation (the true bully) and strip them of the support they’re relying on and feeding from.

I’ve actually chased people out of the room with this question as they bizarrely kept on trying to avoid answering it, probably terrified inside of actually confronting what the answer might be.

I wouldn’t get too keen on using it with hardened sociopaths, though. Not unless you have other Bruce Lee skills as well … or a bodyguard. You could test the waters with the question, and then persist with it or not as seemed prudent. No sense in trading places with the victim … unless, of course, martyrdom is your thing.

I hope this is the sort of stuff you were looking for.

By the way, this question also has the added advantage of not putting you in the wrong if you have misread the situation. If someone is genuinely trying to bring things under control or improve the situation so more is accomplished, then they will simply answer your question and you can respond as seems appropriate. (Thus you won’t have to pack up your sanctimoniousness and leave the party.)

I’ve also written more about giving pointed looks and other ways to keep people in line here: Gus Griffin’s answer to What are common mistakes that new or inexperienced managers make?

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Posted October 7, 2016 at 6:37 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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Self-sabotage: we are all very good at it

Asked of me on Quora today: Have you ever sabotaged your own life? Knowingly or unknowingly?

Though it’s hard for people to do it knowingly, but then there are all types of people. And how did you recover from that? Also, if it’s not you and you have witnessed someone close doing the same, you can share their experience too.

My answer:

On average, people do something to sabotage their own lives at least once every waking hour or so – and that’s only when they’re alone. The number goes up steeply when they are interacting with other people.

The amount of time you actually spend acting in alignment with your conscious intentions is a small fraction of the story you are telling yourself. Your attention is really like a pinball being bounced around by constant instinctive reactions to stimuli that momentarily distract you from following through on your intentions.

Don’t believe me? Sit down, close your eyes and try to concentrate on feeling your lips (without moving them) for just 20 seconds.

Did you do that? You didn’t succeed though, did you? How often did your attention wander away from your lips? (Something triggered that each time.) For how many seconds did you manage to actually sustain concentration on that single simple physical location? I bet it was less than 10.

That level of distractability is going on all … of … the … time … while you are making your way through life … every minute of every day.

What do you think would happen if you could extend your ability to stay purely focused where you want to by just 10%? How many points higher would your IQ be? How much more would you accomplish?

Your distractability is a product of two things: 1) how good you are at concentrating (not obsessing), and b) how many instinctive triggerings are happening to interrupt that concentration.

Practising meditation or mindfulness will improve ‘1’ – my favourite technique is this: Attitude First Aid. And learning how to harness your instincts (rather than fighting them) and morph those reactions into more useful responses will permanently improve ‘2’. For more info on the latter, see my other answers about instincts on Quora , my website and my blog.

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Aha! So you need more convincing, do you? You think I’m exaggerating when I equate these little moments of distraction to self-sabotage. You know you’ve got your shit together much better than that, do you?

Ok, try this on for size – ask yourself this: What’s stopping me from making my ________ more successful? 

Put whatever you like in the blank space: career, business, job, marriage, financial life, family, community, fitness, health, social life, sex life, you name it. Then answer the question honestly.

Whatever your answer, you are avoiding doing that or avoiding dealing with it. No, it’s not lack of knowhow that’s stopping you. I said: be honest – at least with yourself. You do know what needs to be done, and you’ve known it for a long time. But you are simply …not … getting … it … done.

In other words, you are self-sabotaging.

Enough with the denial and laying blame – wear it – do something about it.

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Posted October 6, 2016 at 2:39 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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What is the hardest concept to wrap your mind around?

I was asked the question above on Quora today.

My answer: 

Interesting question. My contribution is not the hardest, but it is definitely up there as one of the most influential concepts that almost everybody has difficulty wrapping their wits around from time to time.

Namely, that what is obvious to you is not obvious to the next guy.

It doesn’t take long before a toddler discovers that other people have some strange ways at looking at things … or not seeing things. So we should be used to the idea by the time we reach adulthood; but we seldom are.

Intellectually we do know that other people don’t think “like I think”, but that doesn’t stop us from routinely being amazed at their purblind obliviousness.

The funny part is that the very same people whose stupidity (which literally means dimmed perception) you are sputtering about are looking back at you and being utterly dumbfounded at your pig-headed obtuseness.

Why we all aren’t naturally drawn to see the advantage in each other’s differing awarenesses – so we can benefit from it – is a question for the ages. Such is the divine comedy.

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If someone is upset with you …

Asked of me on Quora today: If you sense someone is angry and is going to hold a grudge instead of acknowledging it, what can you do to reconcile?

My Answer:

What’s needed is what I like to call: Deep Listening.

People get upset when they feel their communication is being impeded or prevented.

You may not specifically be making it hard for them to express themselves – it may be their own shyness or awareness of the social unacceptability of what they want to express to you that is making them feel that way. Nevertheless, the frustration of the situation will get projected onto you one way or the other.

Basically, to clear the upset, you have to get the “uncommunicated” communicated. Make it safe for them to express what they want you to know and the grudge will suddenly or gradually dispel.

You might say something disarming like: Help me out here, there’s obviously something I’m not getting. What do you feel I should know?

You don’t have to agree with it, but you do have to make it clear that you have truly understood their point of view. Then the upset will dissipate. And try not to do it while others are observing, which might make it more difficult for the person to speak up.

For a deeper understanding, check out this talk by Prof Needleman of SFU:

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Posted October 1, 2016 at 4:18 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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What study gives me the highest chance of becoming succesful in 10 – 20 years?

This question was asked of me on Quora today:

Of course, I understand that the most important things to become successful is working hard, working smart, trying and failing a lot, and having a creative mindset. But your study also plays an important role, but I just feel lost in the choice that allows me to build up success and fun.

My answer: I think this is an important question for all sorts of people, not just those who are still in school. So I’ve taken the time to read all 13 answers given so far before deciding that it would be useful to throw in my two bits worth as well.

And I do see a lot of good advice. I think the most insightful answer so far is that of Eric Worrall’s: ‘mastering skills sufficiently to become one of the best in your field requires obsession.’

Most answers given so far can be broadly classified into either: a) futureproofing or b) self-actualising. Ideally, your plan should take in both: a) preparing for a job that is sure to be in high demand in the future, which also b) calls upon you to “put your best foot forward.”

Science fiction writer and cyberpunk messiah, William Gibson, once said: “The future is already here, it’s just not evenly distributed.” While it may be difficult for the would-be futureproofer to predict discontinuous, disruptive developments that haven’t arrived yet; it’s really not that hard to spot already existing pockets of change which are likely to keep on growing.

As Marshall Gass suggests, clearly nanotechnology is one, as is computer science suggested by Vijay Nabadur. It’s pretty easy to spot others. For instance, climate change is producing an exponentially increasing number of disasters around the world every year: so any job in emergency services is likely to be secure. And, as governments put more resources into providing those services, there will be less available to fund the normal protections we are used to: so the private security industry will almost certainly continue to grow for a long time to come.

Within 10 years, apparently only 20% of jobs will be considered permanent, so finding and negotiating employment contracts for people is definitely a growth industry. With a little bit of homework, you will find it easy to spot several more.

In my experience, most industries develop a distinctive vibe or ethos: so it might be a good idea to sample a number of likely growth industries by doing a bit of work experience in each one that interests you, until you find a truly sympatico work environment. Personally, I spent way too many years in the advertising industry, always feeling a trifle embarrassed to be grouped with so many bullshit artists. It was a great relief when I finally escaped into marketing management and eventually managing others’ performance.

On the self-actualising side of the equation, there is one piece of advice given here which is definitely plain wrong: please do not waste your time on training to improve in your weak areas. It’s boring, demotivating and seldom makes any difference to what you end up doing. If some uncongenial role is essential to advancing your career, pay someone who is good at it to do it for you.

If you want to be successful, you gotta stick to what you’re good at:

Aptitude is like colour: there’s a spectrum of human aptitudes.

While human aptitudes can be applied to a kaleidoscope of different undertakings; they do arrange themselves into this spectrum of natural inclinations. By ‘value’ is meant an awareness and ability to produce/deliver something of value to others. By ‘connection’ is meant an awareness and ability to see where more or better connection between living entities would be helpful. By ‘number’ is meant an awareness and ability to quantify, track, measure and generally bring order to activity. *

You have the highest aptitude for the things you find it easiest to do; and the lowest aptitude for the things you find it most difficult to do. And this inclination comprises not just a special ability, but also a special awareness of where this ability could be applied to produce some improvement.

So, in the area of your highest aptitude, it is also most obvious to you what is needed – and you are regularly astonished that it is not obvious to others. In the area of your lowest aptitude, you are oblivious to what is really needed – and that blindness in you repeatedly astonishes other people.

So you exhibit the most intelligence where you have the highest aptitude; and the least intelligence where you have the lowest aptitude.

You find it easiest to concentrate when performing your highest aptitudes – and concentrate for longer; and your attention span is shortest where your aptitude is lowest.

Most importantly, you find it easiest to learn and improve your performance where your aptitude is highest; and most difficult to improve where your aptitude is lowest.

You memory works best with regard to your highest aptitude; and worst with regard to your lowest. And so on.

Somewhere on this spectrum lies your forté, your potential superpower: the thing you could possibly become better than anybody else in the whole world at doing.

If you’re interested, you can do this Talent Tuneup to get a better idea of what part of the spectrum to look in for your forte. (But it won’t pinpoint it exactly: discovering and developing your superpower is a much bigger job. See also this piece on responding to your perception of what is needed.)

(Currently the scoring process for the Tuneup is manual. If someone on Quora with some javascript skills would like to help make it automatic, then we could give an instant result without requiring contact details.)

The problem with Aptitude is that it doesn’t announce itself. It just makes things easier than other things. So, as a child, you don’t really notice what you’re “good at” until you see how really bad at it that other people are. (Unless you have a parent, grandparent or someone else giving you the necessary feedback and acknowledgement.)

And because it comes so easily, even when it’s clear to you what you’re best at, most people make the mistake of not valuing this enough. They don’t realise it’s their natural meal ticket, their door opener to the “top”.

A classic example of this is my own experience on the football field as a teenager. To use the latest NFL jargon, my “leg talent” (running) was superb. Nobody, but nobody, could get away from me (on defense) or stay with me (on offense). Because I could always get open, I was usually picked to play in the wide receiver position.

But my “hand talent” (catching) was pathetic. So my own quarterbacks learned to hate me: because I always tempted them by getting open, but almost never caught the passes they threw to me.

I knew I wasn’t any good at catching, but I didn’t want to give in to that reality, I kept on thinking that practise would make it better. Notice the bad judgement andslow learning where one’s aptitude is low.

No kid wants to play defense if they can get an offensive position, so I continued failing as a wide receiver. A little bit of mentoring would have seen me leading the league as a cornerback … but nobody noticed. Like Brando in ‘Waterfront’ – I coulda been a contenda! – if I knew just a little bit more about aptitude.

To finally answer your question, the best type of training to pursue is what I like to call aptitude-biased education. Humans are hugely adaptable, so it’s not necessary to rigidly pursue a particular vocational curriculum. Feel free to range as widely as you want in your learning explorations, it’s all grist to the mill for your forté. But do take note of when you find it easiest to sustain your concentration and when you don’t.

Your mind will find ways to harness the most unexpected bits of information in service to your forté as long as you continue to focus on becoming a connoisseur of what comes easily for you and what doesn’t.

(Please note: having your attention grabbed and held by something compulsively – like computer games or other activities designed to be moreish – is not the same as concentrating easily. The way to tell the difference between focus and obsession is by personal power of choice. If you can easily decide to do it or not do it as you please, you are on track.)

Hope this helps. There’s more bits and pieces about this in other Quora answers of mine and on my GREAT INSTINCTS blog.

* Just as there is more to colour than its hue (such as also its saturation and brightness), there is more than one parameter to human aptitude. So it’s really more accurate to say that aptitudes arrange themselves into a number of complementary spectra. For instance, one’s learning modality or style is another parameter of aptitude. Some people perceive more easily (and thus finely) through their sense of hearing, others through their visual sense and others through physical sensation. This also results in the person being more inclined to communicate through sound, through sight or through physical movement (including facial expression).

The Value/Connection/Number parameter shown above is the one most easily matched to jobs in the workplace, so I used it as the main example.

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Posted October 1, 2016 at 2:31 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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The problem boss is not the real problem

I was asked on Quora today: How can I work with my direct manager who hates me and believes I’m aggressive and need ‘discipline’ no matter what I do?

I tried so hard for months to prove to my manager that I was very friendly, very humble and did not take myself very seriously, but for some reason he is convinced I am very aggressive and a snob. He undermines me in front of the team and he’s done everything he could to mess with my self esteem.

My answer:

I really don’t understand why people are willing to take so much shit from their bosses. Back in 1986, at the age of 34, I finally figured out that as long as I continued as an employee I was never going to have control of my working conditions because my employer could change my boss on me anytime they wanted to. So that was my last year as an employee – ever since I have picked my own “bosses” (clients) and promptly dumped them if they didn’t show enough respect.

If the average person put a fraction of the effort they normally put into pleasing their boss, into learning how to jobhunt instead, or into finding the right agent who will find good jobs for you, they would be a lot happier and end up earning a lot more money as well.

The answer to your question is to improve your jobhunting skills to the point where you know you have power of choice over whether you keep your current job or not. When you know you have that freedom, your attitude to your current job will change, and if your boss is any good, he will sense it and start treating you with more respect.

If he’s not any good, then he will keep on pulling the same shit and you will quite happily tell him where to stick it. And if you feel like it, you can also go to his boss and say: Either he goes or I do!

‘Power of choice’ is an extremely important mental quality. You will always perform better and achieve better results at the jobs you choose to do, compared to the jobs you feel you have to do.

So wake up! You don’t need to be a better mindreader or bootlicker. You need to emancipate yourself.


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Posted September 28, 2016 at 10:37 am by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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Can intuition be taught or learned?

I was asked this question on Quora today: Can intuition be taught or learned?

My answer:

It’s easy to run into problems of semantics on this. When talking about intuition, what one person means when they use the word ‘taught’ or ‘learn’ is often quite different to what another person understands.

Intuition – which is basically a sense of what to do or believe based on instinctive, faster-than-conscious reactions – becomes more accurate and thus helpful as your familiarity with some aspect of life increases. What your instincts urge is based on progressively better information and so it will gradually become more appropriate to gaining what you want. But it is the information about the circumstances that is improving, not your innate intuitive faculty.

This is equivalent to pointing out the obvious that it is easier to appear intelligent about things you know about than things you don’t know about. It is also easier to be intuitive about things you know about than things you don’t know about.

This is what is actually improving when most people say that their intuition is getting better.

It is also obvious that one can make a study of their intuition and get a better sense of when to listen to it and when not. In exactly the same way that we all learn how well to trust our sense of balance or our aptitude for numbers. You learn when to rely on them and when not to. So this is another form of “learning” about intuition which results in better choices, but the innate intuitive faculty hasn’t improved any more than your sense of balance has improved unless you undergo special training designed to improve it.

Finally, yes, it is also possible to awaken dormant instincts so that the wisdom of your intuition steadily and permanently improves. However, most people don’t know how to do this – even if they claim that they do. They simply appear to be improving intuition in the ways described above.

For more information on actually improving the intuitive faculty itself, see my Great Instincts blog.

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Posted September 24, 2016 at 5:12 pm by Gus Griffin · Permalink · Leave a comment
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